|Melinda's 3 kids at her|
daughter's high school graduation
all three kids are in college. Save for their tuition. Our house is big enough that the kids can come home with their families at the holidays. I looked forward to those times when I could be a grandma. We built a pool. We planted climbable trees.
The house got paid off. Our oldest went to college (on a basketball scholarship!). And then all the things I'd planned for changed. Our oldest married his high school sweetheart and then moved to Texas to go to school (no scholarship AND out of state tuition - eeep). Our second son decided to "find himself" by moving to Oregon (we live in sunny California). Our youngest soon followed, but she enrolled in college there (again with the out of state, savings-eating tuition - eeep, eeep). Not long after, our son and his wife moved to Oregon and our second son decided he wanted to go to college after all! Three kids in college at the same time. And they all seem to want to live permanently in the rainy, green state.
Meanwhile, back in our empty-nest homestead in California...If you haven't heard, California is in a huge drought (our snow pack is 5% of normal). Those trees we planted? All dead. Every one. The plaster in the pool is cracking as the dry ground shifts. And Mr. Curtis is counting the number of years to early retirement. Early retirement? Who can afford to retire early when you're going to live to see 80 or 90? It should come as no surprise that he wants to leave California for Oregon when he's a retiree.
I'm almost afraid to plan ahead. Last weekend, I had a Twilight Zone moment. I stood in the tree section at Home Depot afraid to pick out some trees. What if they died? What if whoever was interested in buying our dream house 10 years from now didn't like that kind of tree? What if? What if? What if?
Did your life turn out as planned? Is it still going as planned? Or are you going with the flow and happy to do so?